Getting the Right Work Life Balance for an Extraordinary Life

 

Work Life Balance for an Extraordinary Life

Work Life Balance for an Extraordinary Life

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why do most of us humans need a huge shock to get our priorities right?

After my heart attack in 2010, I spent five days in critical care feeling good but reminded how lucky I was by all the tubes and wires attached to me. Remembering people I had known, many younger than I, who had not survived their first heart attacks, concentrated my mind incredibly well.  As those five days progressed, I realised that I was going to survive in reasonable condition. I vowed to spend less time working and worrying, more time enjoying life.

Partly because of our unusual circumstances and absence of financial resources because of those circumstances, and partly from a determination to succeed in a new field in a new country, it did not take long for me to get back into the habit of working long hours.

The long hours needed to develop a new business in a completely different field to anything I had done before, the hours spent on collecting, cutting and splitting wood for heat in winter, the time spent on caring for and (weather permitting) riding my horses, fixing up an old house, add up to long days. I also do some off-line work, help neighbours with some farm chores. The values of perseverance and resilience that were essential for survival and success in Southern Africa, once again keeping me going.

It adds up to longer days than I used to put in as a farmer in Zimbabwe, running my own commercial business in South Africa before that, or even in the corporate world 30 years ago. I must be mad.

Last week, I went to visit a friend in the critical care ward at our hospital. A few years younger than me, four weeks ago he was playing hockey in the veterans league as he does every winter, he didn’t feel too good during the game, went to hospital and discovered he has cancer. Subsequent tests revealed the seriousness and inoperability of cancer in several organs. He has perhaps, 6 months to live.

That was a huge wake up call for me.

Since hearing of his condition, I have made plans to simplify and streamline what I do. Sue and I are seriously considering how and where we want to spend the remaining 15 years we expect to be fit enough to choose what we do and where we do it.

As a child of say 10, the next 15 years seem like a lifetime, encompassing the transitions from child to youth to young adult, for many the additional step of becoming parents.

Gradually as we age, that 15 year span no longer seems like a lifetime, from 35 to 50 it covers the transition from being an adult at the peak of our physical strength, with children still at school to middle age, probably near the peak or even past it, of our earning capacity. For many a transition from a large house now empty of children to smaller accommodation.

After 60, that same 15 year span represents just a season in our life, a transition from late middle age to senior status.

It’s not all bad, it’s the natural flow of life, it happens to all of us. The alternative to getting old is even worse, not getting old (until the fountain of eternal youth is discovered) means not being alive to get old. Dying before our time, as my friend is contemplating with unfortunate certainty.

I would much rather be here in reasonable shape for the next 15 years. The expectation of more aches and pains, less mobility and stamina will be minor inconveniences compared to the gift of living those 15 years or, with luck. 20 or 25.

But I am going to listen to that wake up call and make some changes in my life.

How about you?

Are you going to carry on doing what you are doing now for the next 15 years?

Or are you going to change things to live an extraordinary life?

Peter Wright

 

 

 

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  6 comments for “Getting the Right Work Life Balance for an Extraordinary Life

  1. Roberta
    April 7, 2014 at 3:08 pm

    That balance is a hard one for me. I am a workaholic. And I have been lucky that most of my various jobs over the years I have loved. Work seemed like play for me in several jobs. Add in the fact that I am single, never married, and no children you have a perfect recipe for work being my life.

    However, as I get older I have a more balanced work-life ratio. I am happy. Life is good.

    • April 9, 2014 at 9:07 am

      That’s the trick, Roberta for work to seem like play, regrettably few achieve that happy state.

  2. April 9, 2014 at 8:32 am

    I think that the pressure to “live an extraordinary life” is daunting and depressing, in some ways. The thought of just how short 15 years is can leave some of us feeling like a deer caught in the headlights of an oncoming truck. I’d rather try to focus on appreciating the here and now – not living too much in the past OR the future – and not beating myself up over wasted potential or purpose (oh, God, I didn’t devote my life to developing a cure for cancer or achieving world peace – what a dismal failure I am!). I brought two awesome human lives into the world. I wrote books. I worked, and helped to support my family. I traveled and enjoyed life more than most people get an opportunity to do. And I am grateful for having lived – what a ride it’s been! So no regrets. Lots left to look forward to. And as Roberta pointed out, it’s okay to be a “workaholic” if you’re working at a job you love and it seems like play. It’s sad, if it’s a daily chore and grumble, or you find that you’ve devoted a disproportionate span of years to furthering the aims of people you really don’t care about – or worse yet, despise. I’ve enjoyed my work – and while it’s not always been “fun,” it has always enabled me to indulge in the things that are, so it’s been a fair trade.

    • April 9, 2014 at 9:19 am

      From following your writing for a couple of years now Holly, I would suggest that your life is an example of an extraordinary life in the true sense of the word i.e. NOT ordinary, or MORE THAN ordinary.

      That is what I am encouraging people to be, not necessarily super stars in any given field.

      Some people with mundane jobs, little wealth and limited education, still manage to live extraordinary lives because of their extraordinary attitude, how they think and what they do for others – even in small ways.

      Take the encouragement and support you willingly and frequently provide to aspiring writers and bloggers as an example. You do more than many “gurus” , you do it for (as far as I know) no financial gain, in addition to being a wife, mother and with a demanding career.

      That does not sound like an ordinary life to me. It sounds like a wonderful example for all of us to follow.

      • April 9, 2014 at 9:45 am

        I may be biased, but I love your perspective, Peter! No, my life has not been “ordinary” and certainly not “boring” and I delight in helping people when I can. (People call me and say, “I have a question–I couldn’t think of anyone else who might know…” and I sit there praying, “Please let it be an easy one, please let it be an easy one…” I hate letting them down!) Okay – this is a little like the time I asked my husband why he’d put up with me all these years, and he answered, “Because you’re not stupid.” I can do “not stupid” – just glad “brilliance” wasn’t required, 24/7. I sometimes read things like this and think “extraordinary” MEANS “rock star” – or, because I appreciate science more, “award-winning biochemistry researcher who traveled to space” – you know what I mean? I suppose “extraordinary” is wholly dependent on one’s experiences. 😉 I think your life has been one of extraordinary strength and courage – not to mention packed full of interesting events and experiences – a testament to the power of keeping a positive outlook on life and continuing to get up each morning and put one foot in front of the other. That’s a pretty wonderful example to follow, in my book, too.

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